Vixenamoric

Vixenamoric is a term created by exclusionists to purposefully exclude lesbians who are attracted to nonbinary people, who are nonbinary themselves, and who use any pronouns other than she/her. The people who support/use this flag and label believe that any lesbians who do not fit into these strict guidelines are not true lesbians, and can't be actual lesbians.

This perspective is ahistorical, lesbophobic, and enbyphobic. GNC women in general have used he/him and they/them pronouns since the very beginning of the feminist movement as a means to separate themselves from the oppressive molds that they'd been forced into their whole lives. It is especially common for GNC lesbians to identify with he/him, they/them, or other pronouns, as being a lesbian is inherently rebellious to the social standards expected of women in the first place. A woman's purpose as dictated by our patriarchal society is to serve and please men; lesbians with no attraction to men often feel alienated from womanhood due to their inability to "serve" and "please" men, as their sexuality, something inherent to them that they cannot change, prevents this. Butch and Stud lesbians in particular have a long history of identifying with he/him or they/them pronouns as an expression of masculinity or androgyny, no different from wearing a suit to their wedding or binding their chest. They still identify as women, or womaligned, but they express themselves through masculinity.

Nonbinary lesbians as well have always been part of lesbianism, for similar reasons to he/him and they/them lesbians. Many nonbinary people with exclusive attraction to women find themselves heavily relating to the lesbian experience, and many lesbians find themselves unable to completely relate with the woman experience due to their inherent gender nonconformity. Nonbinary genders are unlimited in number and varied in experience. It is impossible to generalize all nonbinary people, as every nonbinary person experiences their gender different. Many nonbinary people feel uncomfortable with the term lesbian, and may choose to use diamoric or achillean terms instead. Many nonbinary people feel very comfortable with the term lesbian, and identify with it strongly. To deny nonbinary people the ability to choose which gendered terms they feel comfortable with, and to deny the history of nonbinary people being intertwined with lesbianism, is enbyphobic and simply ahistorical in nature.

Those who identify as vixenamoric, or who support the label vixenamoric, are almost always exclusionists (people who exclude aces/aros, as well as various other identities, from the LGBTQ+ community). Be careful if you see them identifying with that label, or the flag depicted above, especially if you are nonbinary yourself.